Dating and learning motivation, are they related?

"Why are you dating..???" "Because dating can make you excited to learn!" Dating is a word we have often heard. Yes, right? Of course, most of the readers already understand the meaning of this one word. And some of our friends or maybe we ourselves have done it, whether it's on the basis of liking or just looking for status. What is clear is that the Shari'a does not allow this. Look back at the sentence above. An answer that actually makes sense when asked the same thing. If you look at the answer above, it will feel strange if this religious law prohibits its adherents from dating. In the end, dating can lead to good grades due to the emergence of learning motivation. But friends, wait a minute, that's a theory that hasn't even been empirically proven. So don't just believe in the truth, okay!?

 Let's talk more about this contradiction. Basically, learning motivation can come because there is something that encourages the individual to achieve something he wants. In practice, a child will be more enthusiastic in learning when his parents will give a gift if the child gets a satisfactory score on the exam. Of course it is not prohibited, in fact it is recommended for every parent, especially those with low-motivated children. Likewise with teenagers, learning motivation has become something that is very much needed. This happens because in addition to strict study hours, the subjects are quite complicated and the demands of each family color their days. This can cause their learning motivation to fade, right, my friend? For those of us who are still teenagers, we certainly feel where our learning motivation decreases or even increases. 

The point is that the motivation to learn for teenagers is still very unstable. Like being a place of escape, dating provides a separate space for those who lose their motivation in learning. Of course this was pioneered by non-Muslims, or even Muslims who did not understand the teachings of their religion. Sounds sad, right? Therefore it is not strange if the question "why are you dating?" can be answered with "because dating can make the spirit of learning!" they put forward various reasons from A to Z from 1 to 1000. After all, in fact, if they are dating because they like each other, they feel more or less an increase in learning motivation. But if in the end they can't control their likes and dislikes, then their learning motivation ends with changing their motivation for immorality. Too complicated? Okay, let's just keep it simple. 

There is a woman let's call her name Ruri. She loves a man named John. Ruri feels more enthusiastic in learning because it is motivated by John who is always enthusiastic about learning and has above average grades. Then because of environmental encouragement, Ruri confessed his love for John and unexpectedly John also loved Ruri. So they are dating. They spend more time together by walking together and what is called a date. Now my question is where is the increase in learning motivation? The answer was right before Ruri and John met, and before Ruri told John that Ruri loved him, before Ruri found out that John also loved her. Then what concept can be taken? The public has mispronounced "love" and "dating". They say "dating can increase motivation to learn" if we think about the above case, motivation to learn arises when we love other people